Comments on: Insert Girlfriend Here http://www.electrolund.com/2005/09/insert-girlfriend-here I solder the body electric « Wed, 23 Jul 2008 23:56:59 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: ElectroLund » Sarob http://www.electrolund.com/2005/09/insert-girlfriend-here#comment-7248 ElectroLund » Sarob Wed, 10 May 2006 07:10:33 +0000 http://www.electrolund.com/?p=537#comment-7248 [...] Part of the perspective change in coming to Colorado yielded a new personal credo. I would attempt to relax about my present singlehood. This new line of thinking spawned a blog post and the most heated pool of ElectroLund comments, topping off at 42!. Incidentally, it was Sarah who commented first: Good luck, Rob- I hope this yields a high platonic friend count for you… er, that is what you want, right? Do you really feel strongly about this? I don’t know if you’ve convinced me that you really want this halt to dating. [...] [...] Part of the perspective change in coming to Colorado yielded a new personal credo. I would attempt to relax about my present singlehood. This new line of thinking spawned a blog post and the most heated pool of ElectroLund comments, topping off at 42!. Incidentally, it was Sarah who commented first: Good luck, Rob- I hope this yields a high platonic friend count for you… er, that is what you want, right? Do you really feel strongly about this? I don’t know if you’ve convinced me that you really want this halt to dating. [...]

]]> By: Sarah http://www.electrolund.com/2005/09/insert-girlfriend-here#comment-1337 Sarah Fri, 30 Sep 2005 03:54:14 +0000 http://www.electrolund.com/?p=537#comment-1337 Good comment, Jeff. I think you are right on. :-) Good comment, Jeff. I think you are right on. :-)

]]> By: Hojun4 http://www.electrolund.com/2005/09/insert-girlfriend-here#comment-1336 Hojun4 Thu, 29 Sep 2005 23:48:56 +0000 http://www.electrolund.com/?p=537#comment-1336 I read Sacred Marriage a couple of years ago and found it very profound -- even as a single person...it certainly changed my perspective of marriage (I think to a much healthier view). I would not have read it on my own, but one of two single people in a small church, I was sequestered with the married folks... Rob just doesn't like me :( :mrgreen: :P I read Sacred Marriage a couple of years ago and found it very profound — even as a single person…it certainly changed my perspective of marriage (I think to a much healthier view). I would not have read it on my own, but one of two single people in a small church, I was sequestered with the married folks…

Rob just doesn’t like me :(

:mrgreen: :P

]]> By: Rob http://www.electrolund.com/2005/09/insert-girlfriend-here#comment-1335 Rob Thu, 29 Sep 2005 23:37:05 +0000 http://www.electrolund.com/?p=537#comment-1335 Mmm, truer words never spoken, bro. Good stuff. (I still say I'm right and Hojun is wrong! :P) Mmm, truer words never spoken, bro. Good stuff.

(I still say I’m right and Hojun is wrong! :P)

]]> By: Jeff http://www.electrolund.com/2005/09/insert-girlfriend-here#comment-1334 Jeff Thu, 29 Sep 2005 23:26:08 +0000 http://www.electrolund.com/?p=537#comment-1334 I'm still reading Gary Thomas' excellent book _Sacred Marriage_. To paraphrase Thomas -- being single promotes serving Christ; being married promotes becoming like Christ. Obviously the two are not mutually exclusive. But Hojun4's comment is exactly right. It is easier for the single believer to serve than for the married believer. Marriage, on the other hand, is fertile ground for confession, reconciliation, and sanctification in a way that singleness is not. It strikes me, too, that we have all experienced singleness. I wonder why it's so difficult for us married folks collectively to remember those days and stand in solidarity with our single friends in their longings and frustrations. It's almost beyond comprehension that we push them to the outside of our social circles and marginalize them in our churches. We were all there once ourselves. I’m still reading Gary Thomas’ excellent book _Sacred Marriage_. To paraphrase Thomas — being single promotes serving Christ; being married promotes becoming like Christ.

Obviously the two are not mutually exclusive. But Hojun4’s comment is exactly right. It is easier for the single believer to serve than for the married believer. Marriage, on the other hand, is fertile ground for confession, reconciliation, and sanctification in a way that singleness is not.

It strikes me, too, that we have all experienced singleness. I wonder why it’s so difficult for us married folks collectively to remember those days and stand in solidarity with our single friends in their longings and frustrations. It’s almost beyond comprehension that we push them to the outside of our social circles and marginalize them in our churches. We were all there once ourselves.

]]> By: Ciera http://www.electrolund.com/2005/09/insert-girlfriend-here#comment-1333 Ciera Thu, 29 Sep 2005 22:39:12 +0000 http://www.electrolund.com/?p=537#comment-1333 There are pros and cons to both singularity and marriage. I once composed a list...I remember that it involved ice cream somewhere. I'll have to find it now. regarding the comment about praying for "Mrs Rob" - that's great advice. I've been told numerous times to pray for my future hubby. I have spurts where he is very well covered and other times, I'm too discouraged to even think of it. It's never sped the process up that I know of though. {that I know of} gotta run. Later! There are pros and cons to both singularity and marriage. I once composed a list…I remember that it involved ice cream somewhere. I’ll have to find it now.

regarding the comment about praying for “Mrs Rob” - that’s great advice. I’ve been told numerous times to pray for my future hubby. I have spurts where he is very well covered and other times, I’m too discouraged to even think of it. It’s never sped the process up that I know of though. {that I know of}

gotta run. Later!

]]> By: Hojun4 http://www.electrolund.com/2005/09/insert-girlfriend-here#comment-1332 Hojun4 Thu, 29 Sep 2005 22:29:21 +0000 http://www.electrolund.com/?p=537#comment-1332 I never said that companionship or marriage was bad. However, scripture says via Paul's 1st letter to the Corinthians that it is better for a person to be alone in Christ. Regardless of what I feel, I have to wrestle with that fact. Scripture never forbids marriage and it never calls it a bad thing. Scriptures such as Proverbs 18:22; Proverbs 31:10-31 praise a godly wife. I think that what Paul is saying is that a single believer, has many advantages over a married believer. For example: Believer "A" is single. Believer "B" is married. They are each faithful and dedicated members of the same doctrinally sound, Bible believing church. The church decides to send 12 people to assist in rebuilding a church destroyed by hurricane Katrina. "A" only has to be cleared by his employer. "B" has to make sure that his family will be taken care of and while working in the damaged area, will have a divided interest (as he should). I would argue that God spared Jeremiah a great deal of pain by keeping him single. Preaching against Israel, warning Israel, and then watching Israel be destroyed as a single man was probably much simpler than had Jeremiah been married. I don't mean to say that marriage is bad. I am simply saying that singleness and marriage have advantages and disadvantages for the believer. I never said that companionship or marriage was bad. However, scripture says via Paul’s 1st letter to the Corinthians that it is better for a person to be alone in Christ. Regardless of what I feel, I have to wrestle with that fact.

Scripture never forbids marriage and it never calls it a bad thing. Scriptures such as Proverbs 18:22; Proverbs 31:10-31 praise a godly wife.

I think that what Paul is saying is that a single believer, has many advantages over a married believer.

For example:

Believer “A” is single.

Believer “B” is married.

They are each faithful and dedicated members of the same doctrinally sound, Bible believing church. The church decides to send 12 people to assist in rebuilding a church destroyed by hurricane Katrina. “A” only has to be cleared by his employer. “B” has to make sure that his family will be taken care of and while working in the damaged area, will have a divided interest (as he should).

I would argue that God spared Jeremiah a great deal of pain by keeping him single. Preaching against Israel, warning Israel, and then watching Israel be destroyed as a single man was probably much simpler than had Jeremiah been married.

I don’t mean to say that marriage is bad. I am simply saying that singleness and marriage have advantages and disadvantages for the believer.

]]> By: Jules http://www.electrolund.com/2005/09/insert-girlfriend-here#comment-1331 Jules Thu, 29 Sep 2005 22:19:17 +0000 http://www.electrolund.com/?p=537#comment-1331 I guess Angela already said that! Oops! Well, you got my version too!!! :mrgreen: :oops: I guess Angela already said that! Oops! Well, you got my version too!!! :mrgreen: :oops:

]]> By: Jules http://www.electrolund.com/2005/09/insert-girlfriend-here#comment-1330 Jules Thu, 29 Sep 2005 22:13:05 +0000 http://www.electrolund.com/?p=537#comment-1330 When we live our lives yielded to God, His desires become our desires. That's how he is able to liberally grant us the desires of our heart. When we live our lives yielded to God, His desires become our desires. That’s how he is able to liberally grant us the desires of our heart.

]]> By: Rob http://www.electrolund.com/2005/09/insert-girlfriend-here#comment-1329 Rob Thu, 29 Sep 2005 21:57:04 +0000 http://www.electrolund.com/?p=537#comment-1329 God specifically states that it was not good for man to be alone. That was pre-Fall. Companionship is a good thing. God specifically states that it was not good for man to be alone. That was pre-Fall. Companionship is a good thing.

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